This is a story about response ability.
Can you, just for a moment, imagine the quantity and variety of life experiences you can potentially create? Now can you imagine the numerous ways you can respond to those experiences? Almost unfathomable, isn’t it?
Before we go further, let’s define a few things. After you peruse the meanings of these words, take a look at the questions below, giving them some immediate consideration, and then reflect further as you read the remainder of this discourse.
Responsibility: accountability, ability to respond maturely and consciously
Conservation: preservation, ability to manage and sustain resources
Discipline: course of study or practice; training that corrects, perfects or molds
In what areas of your life are you most disciplined and or conservative? Are there areas where you are more responsible for something or someone outside of yourself, than you are for your own creations? Is this because you seek validation from the outer world, or could it be that you’re just controlling your environment? How do you see conservation and discipline as crucial to a state of full response-ability?
The Bright Side
When we’re fully responsible, there’s no need to react, to fight or to defend in any way because we’re no longer avoiding or expecting anything. Life becomes more about our ability to create, to resonate with, and transmit higher vibrations, while allowing everyone else to have similar personal experiences.
Self-containment is present, coupled with a new sense of freedom. Instead of shooting from the hip, we’re more discerning about where our energy lands and to what it links. Choices come from practice: accumulated sustenance, circulating and reminding us of who we are as creative beings.
At some point our practice takes us into the moment, transmuting our reactions into responses. With great discipline we eagerly confront our tendencies toward lack: success, power, love, clarity. We have a straight shot to the finish line, clear of distractions, because we’ve prepared the way.
On this trail, we explore unknowns with great curiosity; we take risks, even in the face of dangerous new terrain, and we feel pretty good about ourselves, the taste of enthusiasm lingering on our lips. Our accountability activates us, even with the incoming fire of projections. These attacks carry no weight as we interpret things very differently now.
We’ve conserved our energy for more important activities than worry or competition. Our thoughts are expansive; we’re creative manifesters and receivers, upping the stakes of the consciousness game in a positive way. And when we’re ready to jump over the next hurdle, we seek out a mentor, someone who has been down this road before.
Finally we know we’re essentially safe, and the fear of old finally passes through, eventually becoming non-existent.
My Personal Story
I’d like to say that I’m fully responsible for myself and for the life I’ve created, yet it’s not quite true, yet. I’d like to say that I’ve maintained this level of beingness and have clearly graduated to the next. Though it’s not completely so.
Like a master in any training, I have yet to sustain full response-ability.
One of the most challenging times of my life was the moment I realized that all the responsibility I’d stolen along the way was more about control than it was true response ability. I’d been rescuing or caretaking other people, and their issues, my whole life as part of a self-preservation plot and protection regime. I manipulated my environment to have a “nice n’ easy” experience.
Busting the Old Game
Your story may be similar. No matter what your past experiences, your programming and typical reactions have been over your lifetime, you need to come home to your body and begin witnessing yourself from within. Can you imagine how powerful and present you would be if you reclaimed all the energy you left out in the world all these years?
Let’s start now.
Two of the most common roles in our mundane world are caretaker for women and provider for men. Sometimes these characteristics are reversed, and often they exist in diluted or morphed forms. These roles are tenacious and constant in our world, held together with super glue, enticing almost everyone with the potential rewards of being important, loved, supported and protected.
Look here first to see where you are most enraptured by false responsibility.
If you’re a mother, how can you maintain your role and still be responsible for yourself, your needs and your own responses to what you’ve created? If you’re a man in the traditional role of father and provider, how can you remain in your role and allow your true self to emerge responsive, respectful and receptive to the multiple facets of the life you really came to create?
Hidden within these obvious forms, are the subtleties of their lineages. Everyone holds a little piece of the provider or caretaker in all relationships. How do these roles play out in your world?
Some say we’re unable to modify behavior. Some say it’s impossible to change. I say that’s a great excuse for people who want to live inside the construct. True, there are many challenges, though if we’re up for the risk to our egos and comfort zones, if we’re up for more discipline, we can change anything.
Discipline enters, and the self-confront really begins here. Daily we need to focus on freedom; no judgments or expectations, no qualifications.
Create a symbol; listen to inspiring music; open the pineal gland with whale sounds, and listen to our inner voices. Finding our own personal muse of expansion will lead us to freedom.
Focus.
Now step off the stage for a moment and sit in the audience. From here we can see our roles; those within our families, our community, our workplace and more important, within our inner terrain. Watch.
Now focus some more.
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